So what's the most important thing in the world? On what will this relationship hinge and in what way would I hope that my son may one day walk? I believe that the secret of life is the reception of love through grace... to push aside the categories of production and achievement, and receive again the love that cannot be earned, the love that is defined in relationship--the kind of love that exists between a father and his son.
"The great temptation is to use our many obvious failures and disappointments in our lives to convince ourselves that we are really not worth being loved. Because what do we have to show for ourselves?
But for a person of faith the opposite is true. The many failures may open that place in us where we have nothing to brag about but everything to be loved for. It is becoming a child again, a child who is loved simply for being, simply for smiling, simply for reaching out.
This is the way to spiritual maturity: to receive love as a pure, free gift." -Henri Nouwen